Don’t Forget to Enjoy Life – A Note To Self

Sal’s Branch Trail at Umstead State Park in Raleigh, NC

You cannot buy your children’s happiness.

The nice clothes…

The new shoes…

The video games…

These things are not what the best memories are made off.

The best memories come from the walks in the park, the late night talks and the silly faces.

The best memories come from cooking together, late night drives to no where, and feeling valued.

Your children don’t care about your job. They don’t care about how much money you make. They care about you attentively listening when they speak.

Friday night movie night… exploring new and old favorite places… a small investment for a joyful return.

Go Outside and Play!

Your job is important but not more important than your family (or your health). Close your laptop, put away your phone, and go outside!

Go for a walk around the neighborhood or a local park! Grab the basketball and play a game of HORSE! Get out in the yard and finally trim those trees.

Get out and enjoy life. You deserve it!

Reflecting on a Good Day

Too often we get stuck on “the bad”. Let’s make an habit of sitting and reflecting on the good.

Grab a notebook [get a Not Mad. Motivated. Notebook here – our handmade notebook will be available April 15, 2022], a pen or pencil, and write about a good experience that you had today. Did you learn anything from that experience? What can you commit to doing to make sure that you are not leaving joy “on the table”?

Don’t Forget to Enjoy Life – A Note To Self

Make Your Priorities A Priority

I started noticing my weight gain in 2015. That was a hard year. The year started with my youngest son being seriously injured. Three weeks after my son’s injury, my father was killed by an impaired driver. My sister and nephew came up from Texas and stayed for a few months. Once she left, the binging begun.

It was the very first time in my life that I was not living under adult supervision or with peers. I was the adult. And I was overindulging. In October of 2021, more than 9 years after my youngest son was born, my weight reached an eye-opening peak – 80 pounds heavier than my heaviest pregnancy weight.

Jumping In (and Out) Action

Days after that peak weigh-in, I began to participate in Fit Muslimah’s Ten Day Sugar Detox. Ten days, no added sugar… I thought it would be impossible for me. I did well and lost about 10 pounds.

Salads are super versatile and helps make healthy eating not so boring.

The progress I made in the 10 day detox inspired me to join her Burn Belly Fat challenge. My participation was not perfect. After both programs (40 days total), I was down close to 30 pounds. Imagine my excitement. I decided to participate in the challenge again and completely disconnected from the support group and eventually the program after a couple of weeks into my second rounds.

Getting Real with Myself

Stop making excuses. You have discipline. You control yourself around food during Ramadan, with help from the Creator. You have stopped eating sugar and you physically felt better doing so. Your goal is much bigger than losing weight. Sure you want to look at yourself in the mirror and be happy with what you see – but that is a secondary reward of eating better. The true goal is to live.

You have 3 sons. One of your sons is non-verbal with special needs and he is only 10. You must preserve your life for them. Eat the food that will help – not harm – your body. Make your priorities a priority!

It’s not enough to know your priorities, you actually need to make them a priority.

The instant “gratification” of a donut or cake is not the priority. Those donuts and cakes will compromise your physical ability and health, which will eventually compromise your ability to care for your boys. Plus, you are setting them up for complications of their own.

You want to eat better. You want them to eat better. You enjoy many healthy foods. The junk food often makes you feel disgusting. You got this. You’ve done it before and can do it again. Every day, every hour, is a chance to make better decisions. Let’s Go!

Talk to yourself. Affirm your beauty and all things positive. But also tell yourself to do better when you know you can.

If it is safe for you, grab a notebook [get a Not Mad. Motivated. Notebook here], a pen or pencil, and tell yourself the truth (with love) about the excuses you are making for one of your negative habits. Remind yourself of your previous successes and build on those. Do you have regular “priorities” that you are not prioritizing? Remind yourself of why they are important. The real why, not the surface why.

Make Your Priorities A Priority

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A little writing goes a long way….

Did you know that writing/journaling can be used as a therapeutic tool? Writing can help you process and understand your feelings. When you give yourself permission to reflect and feel, you give yourself the opportunity to heal!

This notebook was designed by a survivor of domestic violence because surviving is just the beginning. There is life after domestic violence – not just surviving. And writing is a great way to get back to living!

This eye catching design incorporates:

1) camouflage: since in times of danger, camouflage helps keep you hidden, increasing the chance of surviving

2) the color purple: for domestic violence awareness and the bravery needed to escape and start living again 

3) the color green: for the needed growth, renewal of self, and peace

4) the color gold: for the earned success and wisdom and

5) a teacup: to relax and build healthy connections with self and others.  

When you purchase this spiral notebook with ruled line paper, that is a perfect companion in everyday life, you help support a community of women who have experienced domestic violence.

.: 118 ruled line single pages
.: Front cover print
.: Black back cover

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