A Domestic Violence Awareness Message to Young Women

As you likely know by now, October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Every domestic violence awareness advocate wants to provide their communities with education and services in desperate hope to one day end domestic violence.

There are many aspects to ending domestic violence, including uplifting and preparing the younger generations. I was inspired to create this video and write this message to the younger generations after spoking to a young mother currently experiencing domestic violence.

A Message to Young Women

To all the young sisters,

Don’t pollute your teens, 20’s, and 30’s with things you will need to heal from in your 40’s and 50’s. Too many of us have walked that road for you.

Treasure yourself now. Treat yourself with respect.

Set your boundaries and maintain them; boundaries are for your own protection.

Expect respect. Expect safety. Expect Love.

You are enough on you own. Never add someone to your life that subtracts from you. Never fear subtracting someone from your life to make yourself whole.

Love, love, love yourself. 

See yourself now. 

When you are in the mirror, look beyond the surface.

Speak words of self-love. Speak words of self-worth. You are worthy of love and that real love needs to come from you.

Talk to yourself with kindness and model what you expect from others.

Be open-minded to learning from the older generations. We don’t want to go through what we did.

Share the Wealth

I recently heard a woman around my age say that we should have friends in age groups outside of our own. Our older friends are expected to have more knowledge and experience and can therefore help guide us.

To the younger generation, you are the more experienced and more knowledgeable friend that guides them. What a beautiful concept of true community and uplifting. So share the wealth of knowledge and experience with the younger people in your life.

Do you have older and younger friends?

What advice do you or would you like to share with the younger generations?

Share in the comments.

Domestic Violence Awareness Month – Green Flags in Relationships

Did you know that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month?

In relationships, red flags are signs that the person probably can’t have a healthy relationship and proceeding down the road together would be emotionally dangerous.

Dr Wendy Walsh in 10 Red Flags in Relationships

It can be fairly easy to recognize red flags. However, many of us ignore or explain those red flags away; especially in our younger years. Many of us want to see the best of people, or explain away someone’s actions because of their past traumas.

Since we usually want to see the good, the ability to observe green flags in an healthy relationship is a very important life skill. Here are seven green flags we can look for in an healthy relationship or partner.

We create boundaries to protect every aspect of our well-being. Having your boundaries honored within any relationship should be expected.
If your relationship/partner encourages you to create and/or pursue your personal goals for self-development, the green flag is waving.
We should feel safe enough to communicate openly within our relationships without the fear of ridicule or abuse.
Self-reflection is an important part of any healthy relationship. Self-reflection increases self-awareness, inspires self-acceptance, challenge thoughts, uncover breakthrough, etc.
Vulnerability between partners nurtures a connection, increases trust, and build courage.
There should be no room for negotiation when it comes down to being valued in a relationship.
Spirituality can mean different things to different people. There should at the very least be a mutual respect.

What green flags would you add? Comment below.

Tell the Children the Truth: About America

There are many songs by the legendary Bob Marley which often brings me to tears. After hearing about Trump’s “Mount Rushmore” speech, one song, in particular, has occupied my mind space. The toward the end of the song Babylon System, from the album Survival, the phase “Tell the Children the Truth” repeats. Mr. Marley’s pleas to be honest with the children is still painful to hear, as I witness a “president” who refuses to tell the truth about America!

Have the heart to Tell the Children the Truth!

In his speech, Trump portrays this idea that schools are vilifying the heroes that built our country. However, I have witnessed the exact opposite. I have donated to many book projects for teachers, classrooms, and schools over the last couple of years. Looking at those books, I do not see “our heroes” being vilifying. Instead, I see our heroes becoming more inclusive.

“Our children are taught in school to hate their own country and that the men and women who built it were not heroes but that were villains.”

Trump, Mount Rushmore, July 03, 2020

When our teachers expose students to the US enslavement of Africans and their descendants, they teach that those Black Lives Mattered. They teach about men and women who literally built our country. Men and women who were literally vilified – not even recognized as human for a time!

When our teachers teach about the land stolen from the Native Americans, and the immigrants whose labor also built America, they teach about the truth that Trump and his followers would rather forget. The US was built by many, but greatly profited only a few. To keep that balance of imbalance, those who invested the most blood, sweat, and tears were made the enemy of the US. This is not hate speech, it is truth.

A Not Mad. Motivated. Point of View

The history of America gives witness to the fact that wealth and power has always been more important than its people. There is a lot to be mad about when it comes to our history and the impact that it continues to have on so many today. If you are angry, make sure you are angry with a purpose! Seek knowledge. Have real conversations. Move with kindness. Have compassion. Tell the Truth. Do NOT just get MAD. Get MOTIVATED. The difference starts at home.

Get ready to make positive  moves!
Change in US starts with us!

A Poem For My Mom

My mother wants to help everyone.

No matter how old. No matter how young.

She cares for family and those known for a while.

Even for a stranger, she’ll go an extra mile.

In times when there’s danger, she never backs down.

Not even when a scary virus is all around town.

She checks for fevers in case someone’s sick.

Being extremely careful and prayer is her helpful trick.

Her job is to help but she never stops there.

There is no limit on when or where she will care.