Who else loves shopping for stationery supplies? Notebooks and filler paper? Pens and pencils? Post-it Notes and index cards? Some of the simple pleasures in life.
As a DV survivor and a Life Coach, I know how important it is to get your thoughts out. I also know how a good to-do list can motivate action and improve self-accountability.
With my appreciation for stationery and my desire to see women who have experienced domestic violence LIVE – and not just survive – after DV, I decided to launch a series of tools to assist. The first tool being our handmade notebook.
A Quick Behind the Scene
Check out this quick video showing how we make our Not Mad. Motivated. Handmade Notebook. We print our lines and covers, we punch the holes and bind it all together. [Please excuse my son’s music at the end of the video💜]
These things are not what the best memories are made off.
The best memories come from the walks in the park, the late night talks and the silly faces.
The best memories come from cooking together, late night drives to no where, and feeling valued.
Your children don’t care about your job. They don’t care about how much money you make. They care about you attentively listening when they speak.
Friday night movie night… exploring new and old favorite places… a small investment for a joyful return.
Go Outside and Play!
Your job is important but not more important than your family (or your health). Close your laptop, put away your phone, and go outside!
Go for a walk around the neighborhood or a local park! Grab the basketball and play a game of HORSE! Get out in the yard and finally trim those trees.
Get out and enjoy life. You deserve it!
Reflecting on a Good Day
Too often we get stuck on “the bad”. Let’s make an habit of sitting and reflecting on the good.
Grab a notebook [get a Not Mad. Motivated. Notebook here – our handmade notebook will be available April 15, 2022], a pen or pencil, and write about a good experience that you had today. Did you learn anything from that experience? What can you commit to doing to make sure that you are not leaving joy “on the table”?
I recently finished a five-session, 1:1 writing to heal program with Writing Coach Shamina Williams of Life Lines Professional Services. First, if you have never taken some kind of writing class – for fun, to jump start your creativity, or to help in your healing – I highly recommend you give it a try. (I will write more about my experience in a future post.)
In one of our sessions, Coach Shamina challenged me to create a list of ten goals for me to work to achieve before the year is over. As a young student, writing my goals or my “to-do” lists was an important self-accountability tool. There was a sense of excitement and accomplishment in checking off each task!
However, sometime while adulting, I neglected the habit of making lists. There was a time when I experienced being ridiculed for “relying” on a list. Lists were spoken about as a character flaw or weakness. But the truth is, I was stronger with my lists. I was more focused and more driven. I was more . . . well. . . more me. Creating a list of goals is like having an accountability partner – especially if you share your list with other. So hold me accountable, y’all!!
10 Goals for the Rest 2022
My intention for the list below is to increase my overall happiness and to increase satisfaction with myself.
Improve my worship to The Creator
Pray on time
Memorize at least 5 Surahs
Lose 25 pounds
Increase physical activity
Reduce sugar intake
Spend more quality time with sons
Go new places together
Replace my social security card
Call SS office for requirements
Get a Passport for me and my sons
Confirm requirements and cost
Get new window treatments
Order windows treatments
Update my yard and deck
Schedule deck estimate
Contact HOA about rules
Schedule deck installation
Schedule yard estimation
Keep up the kitchen and living room with daily “reset”
Have and enforce a cleaning schedule
Organize additional space until completed
Create healthy night and morning routines
Be more productive at work
Organize my workspace
Set work goals/priorities for the day/week
Writing to Set Short-term Goals
There are many reasons to grab a notebook and get to writing. One reason is, that can be made into a very regular habit, to create goals and to-do lists. You can even set rewards for your goals by giving yourself small, yet meaningful gifts once one or a group of goals are accomplished.
Grab a notebook [get a Not Mad. Motivated. Notebook here – our handmade notebook will be available April 15, 2022], a pen or pencil, and write down goals you want to accomplish before the year is over. Focus on one to three during a period of time. As you accomplish one, cross it off your list and add another goal to focus on. If you haven’t crossed off all your goals at the end of the year, that’s okay. Celebrate what you do complete – that is the important part. Also, some goals may never be 100% completed, and instead they are constantly improved upon.