Domestic Violence Awareness Month – Green Flags in Relationships

Did you know that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month?

In relationships, red flags are signs that the person probably can’t have a healthy relationship and proceeding down the road together would be emotionally dangerous.

Dr Wendy Walsh in 10 Red Flags in Relationships

It can be fairly easy to recognize red flags. However, many of us ignore or explain those red flags away; especially in our younger years. Many of us want to see the best of people, or explain away someone’s actions because of their past traumas.

Since we usually want to see the good, the ability to observe green flags in an healthy relationship is a very important life skill. Here are seven green flags we can look for in an healthy relationship or partner.

We create boundaries to protect every aspect of our well-being. Having your boundaries honored within any relationship should be expected.
If your relationship/partner encourages you to create and/or pursue your personal goals for self-development, the green flag is waving.
We should feel safe enough to communicate openly within our relationships without the fear of ridicule or abuse.
Self-reflection is an important part of any healthy relationship. Self-reflection increases self-awareness, inspires self-acceptance, challenge thoughts, uncover breakthrough, etc.
Vulnerability between partners nurtures a connection, increases trust, and build courage.
There should be no room for negotiation when it comes down to being valued in a relationship.
Spirituality can mean different things to different people. There should at the very least be a mutual respect.

What green flags would you add? Comment below.

Exploring New Passions During This Difficult Time

Difficulties come and go for us all. Sometimes difficulties can be paralyzing. They can leave us feeling completely engulfed by a matter in a devastating way. However, these same obstacles can be empowering. They can allow us opportunities to grow stronger and think clearer. Our alternative life continues due to this worldwide emergency. Although many states in the U.S. are testing their “reopening”, many people are being cautious by continuing stay-at-home and social distancing efforts. How long will it take for us to feel safe to return to our “regular” routines? No one knows. As we wait, let’s take a look at ourselves and start exploring new passions during this difficult time.

What is your passion?  Why not start exploring new passions during this difficult time?

If you read our April 2020 newsletter, you know that the inspiration for this topic is a seventh grade English/Language Art assignment. The Passion Project is set up to help students learn about a topic that is most interesting or most important to them. We shouldn’t let our children/students have all the fun!

As adults, we have worries and responsibilities that often take us away from our wants as an individuals. What we thought was important or interesting last year or twenty years ago, may no longer satisfy who we are now. So why not take a closer look at who we are and what makes us happy!

Deciding on a Passion

The first assignment for the passion project is to make a list of your passions. This gets your mind going immediately. What do you like? What is important to you? Do you want to have fun? Do you want to grow as an individual? Are you looking to learn something that you can turn in to income. No matter your reason for wanting to explore the idea, include it in your list. My list would look some think like this:

  • Increasing Faith
  • Building Bridges Across Communities
  • Empowering Youth
  • Autism Awareness and Acceptance
  • Parenting
  • Domestic Violence
  • Mental Health

All of these topics are important to me. I appreciate this first step of the passion project for two reasons. It allows the individual to think about what is important for themselves. Alternatively, it gives others an opportunity to learn about the individual and find areas of commonality! Isn’t that what building bridges and communities all about?

What draws me most to Building Bridges Across Communities is that all my others passions can be connected by those bridges I build!

What’s Next?

After choosing a passion, brainstorm five questions that you want to answer while you research how to develop your passion into action. Until then, please share the new passions that you are exploring or would like to explore. Do our passions overlap any? Did you learn anything new about Not Mad. Motivated. based on the list above? We want to hear from you. Feel free to leave social media handle in case others are interested in the same passions!